Surprise! We did it again! I was in utter shock! We’re having another baby!
Speechless!
This was not the plan! We are NOT ready for this! What are we going to do?!
Those were the only complete sentences I could say after realizing we were pregnant with baby number three!
After trying to conceive baby number two and the struggle of becoming second time parents, this was unexpected!
The shock of realizing I was about to be a mom for the third time had me feeling like I was having an out of body experience. Meanwhile, hubs took the boys out so I could have time to process.
I just sat there.
In the middle of the bed.
Hands over my face.
The shock was too much!
the story
At my previous place of employment, for two years straight, three people would get pregnant. Guessing who it would be was a running joke at work. One day, after Christmas break, a few of my colleagues and I were discussing who the third person would be.
Me: “Well, I know it won’t be me!” As we continued to talk, I realized Aunt Flo was late!
Them: “Why are you so quiet?
Me: “I just realized I have something to do.” Yeah, go home and take a pregnancy test.
the irony
A few days prior, my husband and I were joking about what our life would be like with another child. WE WERE LITERALLY JOKING!!
During Christmas break I went to the emergency room because of serious back pain. I assumed it was because I was painting the living room and maybe I pulled a muscle. I had an X-Ray and naturally the first question they ask is, “Are you pregnant?” I laughed at the question and simply said, “No.”
Fast forward to the conversation at work. Yeah! Ha! The joke was on us — my husband and I.
the moment of truth
I drove to the local Dollar Tree to get a pregnancy test. It was a long drive home and Dollar Tree was only 10 minutes from our house. I drove slowly to avoid and to prolong the truth and trying to decide how to tell my husband the story.
It was time to take the pregnancy test and this time was not like the multiple pregnancy tests for our Niran, middle child, because we were trying for him. Naturally, the results were lightening fast!
I sat there, staring at the floor. My husband opened the bathroom door, we locked eyes and reading the expression on my face, he held his head low and slowly closed the door.
A few minutes passed and he opened the door again to check to make sure I was “okay.”
Heck no!! I wasn’t ok. 😫
emotional moment
We were both in shock. A joke a few days ago was now our punchline reality. No more laughing. As I exited the bathroom and climbed into bed, all I could say is, “What are we going to do?”
Being the optimist that he is, he replied, “We will be ok. We always are.”
As comforting as those words were, it didn’t change the fact that we were entering the “starting over phase.”
He called the boys into our room and told them to get their coats and shoes. They were going for a ride so I could have some alone time.
moments alone
In those few moments alone, all I could do was cry. I wasn’t ready for this process again! Niran, our middle son, was potty trained and finally sleeping through the night. Now, we were about to go through this all over again and I wasn’t ready!
I wasn’t ready for the daycare expense times two or the sleepless nights. Nevertheless, nine months later I was packing a suitcase getting reading for baby girl’s delivery.
We were about to be a family of five – Three’s Company of children.
It took me four months to really be excited. I think it was that first flutter. That first movement. Considering I may not have been ready at first and once the shock faded, I was ready to receive my blessing.
Our daughter entered our life right on time. She made me whole! We may not have been ready but that’s how God works! He may not come when you want Him too but He is always right on time!
We wanted and prayed a girl! We thought Niran was going to be our girl. Despite our initial shock, you know what…our family is NOW perfectly complete!
What’s your shocker of a pregnancy story?
What GORGEOUS children you make! I loved reading your story. And I especially love the quote at the start My one and only was medically coaxed and we tried for repeat success but failed. It took several years for me to accept that our family was just going to be the three of us but now I cannot imagine it any other way. Blessings to you and your beautiful family!